What is a Flabby Ask?

Let’s set the stage…We’re sure you can relate to this one. 

How many times have you asked your partner, “Are you hungry?” when you’re the hungry one?

They say no and move on with what they were doing. You start to get upset, irritated or, depending on the level of “hangry” you might be, angry. Didn’t they hear what you asked?



This is what we here at Eden World call a “Flabby Ask”.


And believe us when we say nobody likes a Flabby Ask—it’s about as exciting as a deflated balloon. It’s that weak little float where you say, “Hey babe, I think I might want this.” 👎🏼

We’ve all been there in one form or another. But what  if we asked for exactly what we wanted?

Instead of the plain and generic approach, try asking something like, “Hey babe, I’m hungry. What would you like for dinner?” or “What are you thinking about for dinner?” 

Or how about this? “Hey, I’m hungry. Do you wanna do dinner together? If you’re not hungry, I’m happy to eat alone.” 

Boom! Now you’re setting the stage for a delightful mealtime experience, whether you dine together or fly solo.

Now, here’s the tricky part—often, we don’t have a clue about what we actually need in the heat of the moment. It’s like trying to find your way in a maze without a map. 

We need to take a beat, step back, and reflect on our needs. Only then can we articulate them to our partners in a way that truly resonates.

Watch this video and get the gist of what we are talking about:

Remember, the key is to get crystal clear on your needs, wants, and desires


Once you’ve accomplished that feat, it’s time to make a pact with your partner—an agreement to support each other in asking for what you both need and making those wants and desires come true.

Can you handle that challenge? 

We know you can! So go ahead, give it a shot! We’re eagerly waiting to see those Asks tighten up. Tight….Asks. Get it? *wink*

If you’re hungry for more incredible tools and tips on how to take your relationship to the next level, we’ve got just the thing for you. Join our vibrant and free community at EdenWorld.org/Mighty

Until next time, stay fabulous and keep those Asks tight! 💪🏼

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Relationship sits at the center point of all human creation. How we are in relationship determines how we are as a society. When relationships thrive, humanity prospers. Eden offers a container, a sanctuary, a home to practice being in sacred union with ourselves, our beloved and each other.

By taking complete responsibility for ourselves and living in our full sovereign expression, we bring total presence to our Beloved and our community of greater Eden Beloveds, creating the sacred space to share our deepest needs, fears, and desires. By having the courage to communicate until we discover the larger truth seeking to emerge, we experience the healing and freedom that leads to radical fulfillment. 


Eden is a safe container that supports each of us to meet every part of ourselves with compassion and understanding – especially the places that have been hidden or rejected. This vow of love creates the conditions for us to continuously evolve in an ever-widening circle of beauty and abundance… until the whole world is held in our hearts.

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