CONNECTION LEADERS

Holding all beloveds together

WHAT IS A CONNECTION LEADER?

At Eden World live and virtual events, the greatest service we can provide our members is to facilitate connection. When we break out into small groups during these events, Connection Leaders are there in each group to help lead the conversation in the juiciest, most authentic, most vulnerable and most pleasurable direction possible.

Connection leaders are living examples of the Eden Principles, giving couples a flesh and bone reflection of what’s possible when a conscious couple finds their fullest individual expression by surrendering fully to devotion to each other. 

You don’t need to be a trained facilitator to be a great connection leader. To be a Connection Leader for a specific event, you and your beloved must both commit to attending all sessions at the event. Connection leaders often are called upon to use these skills, and to be qualified you should feel comfortable with a degree of mastery in them:

    • Empathy. There’s no substitute for open-hearted curiosity. Connection leaders help make sure Eden is a safe space to share what’s true, even if it feels uncomfortable to be vulnerable in front of others. The connection leader sets the tone of authentic curiosity for every person’s experience.
    • Compassionate Interruption. To lead a group discussion means knowing when to give someone an extra moment to find their words and knowing when to interrupt a conversation that might not be the highest potential engagement for the group. A Connection Leader can interrupt with confidence without being harsh or abrupt.
    • Consent. Connection leaders are aware of the line between pure listening and offering a reflection, and ask consent before crossing it. They model for the group the skill of establishing consent in a way that gives everyone room to make their own choice, free from even the subtlest forms of social pressure.
    • Reverence. Connection leaders revere love and revere the unique romantic expressions of love present in every other couple. The coupledom holds the wisdom at Eden, not the teachers, facilitators, or Connection Leaders. If there is a request for guidance, it is met by gently pointing the couple back to their own relationship as the deepest source of wisdom. Any advice, helpful models, or prescribed actions are designed to help couples find and honor their own wisdom. Connection Leaders believe in people and in their love stories.
    • Time. Connection Leaders can be fully present to the one who’s speaking while also paying attention to the balance of allotted time for each share or exercise. Staying on track gracefully means Connection Leaders are not stressed by time constraints and transmit the experience that there’s “all the time in the world” while at the same time making sure each person has ample time to speak.
    • Technology. Similarly, Connection leaders are not stressed by juggling multiple devices and tracking their connection to the larger group at the same time as they are supporting their own small group in completing each exercise. This could mean managing text messages and a zoom call and entering information into a google sheet all while staying present and listening to couples share in their groups. Thankfully you and your beloved will be doing it together!

PASSWORD

The password for all REIMAGINE zoom events is: eden

SUNDAY SEPT 27th 4 pm Pacific

First connection leader meeting, hosted by Tracey and Erin. This is a chance to connect and begin to prepare for next weekend’s big show!

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WEDNESDAY SEPT 30th 5:30 pm Pacific

We’ll go through all the prompts for each session and ask any last-minute questions you might have.

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FRIDAY OCT 2nd 5 pm Pacific

All connection leaders will meet 30 minutes before each session in the following zoom room:

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The agenda will be:

1) Grounding. A Reminder: Why are we here?
2) Last minute changes to the prompts or expectations (if any)
3) Are there any couples you are concerned about?
4) Is there any support you need or want to rock the next session?
5) Reminder: Prompts for the session (posted here)

SATURDAY, OCT 3rd 10 am Pacific

All connection leaders will meet 30 minutes before each session in the following zoom room:

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SATURDAY, OCT 3rd 1:30 pm Pacific

All connection leaders will meet 30 minutes before each session in the following zoom room:

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SATURDAY, OCT 3rd 5 pm Pacific

All connection leaders will meet 30 minutes before each session in the following zoom room:

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SUNDAY, OCT 4th 10 am Pacific

All connection leaders will meet 30 minutes before each session in the following zoom room:

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SUNDAY, OCT 4th 1:30 pm Pacific

All connection leaders will meet 30 minutes before each session in the following zoom room:

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FRIDAY, OCT 9th 5 pm Pacific

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TBA, 5:30 pm Pacific

Connection Leader post vida! Let’s get together and close the sacred circle.

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Eden World: 12 Principles (PDF DOWNLOAD)

TABLE OF CONTENTS

I. RELATIONSHIP IS OUR NORTH STAR
II. WE ARE EACH OTHERS BELOVED
III. ALL THE WAY THROUGH
IV. WHAT’S IN THE WAY IS THE WAY
V. HONOR & INTEGRITY
VI. PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY
VII. FULL SOVEREIGN EXPRESSION
VIII. PRESENT AWARENESS
IX. ASSUME THE BEST
X. GIVING FREQUENCY
XI. ALL NEEDS MET
XII. WE HOLD IT, TOGETHER

 

I. RELATIONSHIP IS OUR NORTH STAR

We hold with reverence that each person’s romantic partnership is a spiritual practice. Everything we explore revolves around the idea that in the context of committed partnership, we are more likely to discover even greater levels of freedom for our sovereign expression than what we would find through personal exploration alone.

We regard partnership as the perfect mirror for our present level of consciousness and our greatest teacher for the optimal path forward. We live in harmony with what serves that partnership, as we trust that it points us towards what is in the greatest service to ourselves, to the community and to the world. 

In Eden, we search for the commonality with each other rather than exploit our differences, and use that as a reminder to awaken to a higher consciousness. When we hold this perspective, we can feel the boundary lines dissolve between us and our beloveds, between our shadow and our light, and between that which we revere and that which we detest. If we find ourselves in opposition, we remember to take a moment to see the complimentary and symbiotic nature within ourselves and our Beloved. We are devoted to loving one another with the fullness of our hearts. 

In other words:
It is through the container of relationship that we see ourselves more completely and become the most actualized version of ourselves. We take being in relationship seriously.

II. WE ARE EACH OTHER’S BELOVED

We celebrate love. We hold each other’s love and relationship as sacred. Each member of our community is a stand for you, for your beloved and for the future selves that you can only be through dedicated commitment to each other. We are unshakable in our faith in the prosperous future of each relationship. We are ever expanding the love, care and devotion we experience with our beloveds to include our community and in turn humanity. We treat each other with the same reverence and respect that we hold for our beloveds.

In Eden, we practice knowing and loving ourselves more fully, so we can be ourselves more completely. This includes the parts that have been hidden, denied, rejected or judged. We are interconnected, and with each other as our mirrors, we can master loving ourselves and each other more completely, and create a world that works for the highest good of all.

In other words:
We extend our respect, honor and brotherly or sisterly love to everyone in Eden, even when it is challenging. When each of us practices caring for each other as beloveds, sometimes shift comes up, just like it does with your partner. Remember we are all here for the same thing. Breathe and use these principles to guide you.

III. ALL THE WAY THROUGH

When we take things “all the way through” it means that we no longer have a judgement or trigger with someone or something that was in conflict for us. It means that we each do “the work” to clear our own hearts and minds of uncompleted thoughts, unresolved interactions, character assessments and interpretations of negative intent. When we are unable to do this alone, we take the initiative to get the support from others to do so.

We meet challenges with curiosity and engage in courageous conversations that lead to the healing, greater freedom, and deeper connection we all desire most, whatever it takes.

In Eden, we do our best to not push things under the rug or hold judgments that weigh on our hearts. This principle invites us all to have the conversations that get through the layers and create an even deeper connection and understanding because we've gone all the way through. 

In other words:
Don’t leave things unresolved. Clean it up as we go.

IV. WHAT’S IN THE WAY IS THE WAY

We believe every problem contains the seed of its own solution and the impulse of evolution. Anything we perceive as an obstacle is an opportunity for our own development and emotional maturation. We trust that all of life is conspiring for our highest good and are grateful for the obstacles that we may initially perceive as in our way, because they point to a more noble path, giving rise to new opportunities, rewards and evolutionary ways of seeing and being.

In Eden, what looks like a problem is actually the solution. We work to show up for each other with open, undefended hearts, available for feedback and other perspectives, knowing that we all bring something of value. Seeking to find the truth in the middle, the highest possibility for all, we recognize that if something is triggered, it is gold and we explore it to discover the intrinsic value of our relational field of reflections, awareness and possibilities for growth.

In other words:
What seems like a mishap is actually transformational gold in disguise. Remember, a lotus flower blooms from the deepest and thickest mud.

V. HONOR & INTEGRITY

We believe the seeds of Eden are planted in the soil of our soul and we must live with integrity for them to blossom forth into our lives. By endeavoring to align with our deepest truth, be impeccable with our words -- and keep our word -- we develop the congruent character that allows life to thrive in and around us. We are sincere with the agreements and promises we make and communicate honestly when we are unable to fulfill those commitments. We honor the absent and go directly to the source of any miscommunication or upset. We treat others with reverence and respect, as we would have them treat us. 

In Eden, we do our best to live in integrity in all we do. We avoid triangulation or gossip and look to the principles as a way to honor one another and clear any obstacles in the way of a loving and peaceful connection. 

In other words:
Be Cool. Don’t be a hypocrite and say one thing then do another. Don’t be gossiping or shit talking people. Do your best to be straight up with one another.

VI. PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY

We hold the paradox of individual and shared responsibility. We cast ourselves as the author of our own experience, responsible for our thoughts, actions and circumstances. 

Although we grant that same respect to others, we also hold ourselves accountable to our impact on their experience, regardless of their sensitivities or interpretations. We clean up our own messes yet, our attitude of personal responsibility does not end there. We also hold ourselves responsible for our ongoing physical, emotional, mental and spiritual development so that we learn from our mistakes. 

In Eden, we are the creator of our own reality. No person or condition has the power to make us think, feel or do anything that we don’t consent to – therefore we take 100% responsibility for our thoughts, beliefs, perceptions, feelings and actions.  

In other words:
Keep your shit tight.

VII. FULL SOVEREIGN EXPRESSION

It is a potent expression of divine love to be fully expressed as an individual. Every person plays a necessary role in integrating what is needed to create a world that works for everyone. We also believe that it is courageous to be fully expressed and even though this can be messy and create great contrast, it is where our differences meet that our greatest opportunities for healing, growth and evolution exist. 

In Eden, we strive to live, speak and embody our most authentic self. Enriched by our differences, we celebrate the whole range of the human experience. We understand that some expressions may be soft while others are bold and we welcome both and everything in between.

In other words:
Let your freak flag fly and watch others’ heads when you are spinning your flag around.

VIII. PRESENT AWARENESS

We hold presence as the starting place from which to love and live. We recognize that being present is a prerequisite for seeing and meeting our beloveds. Because life is ever-evolving, we release the past and what the future may hold as we enter this moment, rediscovering what’s new with ourselves, our partner and the world. With present awareness, healing of separation and ultimate communion are possible. 

In Eden, we value the flow and possibility that lies within each moment as we believe this reveals our true “current-see.” Each moment is its own experience with emerging miracles held within it.

In other words:
Be here now.

IX. ASSUME THE BEST

We aim to keep our relationships free of judgement, blame, contractions and resistance. We acknowledge that we can never know Truth without understanding others. We strive to know the Truth as the multidimensional perspective that includes all and excludes nothing. We hold that giving others the experience of being understood is often a prerequisite for being understood ourselves. We engender trust that each person is doing their best regardless of our perceptions. 

In Eden, we are committed to creating a culture of humility and curiosity around our beliefs and stories about our Beloved and all of our Beloveds in Eden – allowing us to remain open to the diversity of perspectives that gives rise to the deeper understanding – the place in the middle that serves the highest good of all. This means that we examine and take responsibility for the “stories we make-up” and remain open to understanding and hearing ALL perspectives in service to the highest truth.

In other words:
Don’t make up stories about other people, assume the best and seek to understand. If you are going to make up stories… make up really amazing ones that paint others in a positive light. Go to the source with curiosity and share with an open heart.

X. GIVING FREQUENCY

When we are in the spirit of generosity it feeds the part of our soul that longs to be connected and feel supported. As an expression of valuing self and others we share what we have (our gifts) in order to uplift one another. Through this generosity bonds are created and weave together the fabric of a community that transcends self-interest. It is in these bonds that we enjoy true safety, security and certainty. The more we cherish our community, as a way of holding the gifts we offer, the more we cultivate a community in which everyone thrives. 

By being of service to others we can experience ourselves as having a surplus of love, energy, time and resources and align with a purpose greater than ourselves. We choose to give to this community because we are inspired by its purpose: Love. 

In Eden, we share from our abundance recognizing that we are all bearers of great resources. Some of us have valuable skills and services we can offer, some have finances and other acquisitions to share. We give unconditionally and wholeheartedly, trusting and knowing that we are provided for, as individuals and as a group.

In other words:
The more we give to the community, the more we are supported and all thrive. We give freely of our time, treasure and talent. “We-conomics vs. Me-conomics”

XI. ALL NEEDS MET

All human beings have needs. Some go unexpressed and some are loud and clear. At times those needs may feel in conflict with someone else's needs, yet when we commit to seek ways to meet all needs, we illuminate a path towards creating something greater than what we originally thought possible. 

As a practice we strive to distinguish our needs from our preferences, desires and self-protection and are committed to exploring any friction or perceived “problem” with an open heart and mind. This process activates an emergent field of opportunity that allows us to discover and reveal the higher needs within every situation. 

In Eden, we hold sacred our faith that all needs can be met and that all of our decisions and actions can be made to serve the whole. We are unsatisfied with any conditions that leave any person’s needs unmet. 

In other words:
Help a buddy out and do what you can to support one another, even when you would rather not.

XII. WE HOLD IT, TOGETHER

The way we love is guided by the belief that the individual is most efficiently healed in partnership. The way we hold community is guided by the belief that the partnership is most efficiently healed in community. Rooted in our sovereignty, we freely choose to love, serve and support each other, expanding the freedom, capacity and opportunities available to all of us. 

Our struggles often feel personal, but when we reveal them to a loving community we recognize that the true nature of our struggles is, in fact, shared. We invest in each other’s development and emotional maturation, and in doing so we find ourselves liberated from the same emotional and cultural inheritance of patterned thinking and stored trauma. 

In Eden, when we have the courage to be vulnerable with each other and the generosity to hold each other tenderly in that vulnerability, we open ourselves up to a more expansive experience of love. Instead of trying to “hold it together” we hold it... together. 

In other words:
Being a lone ranger is a thing of the past. We are a tribe people and, as a tribe, we support each other and build each other up. I got me, you got you… we got we!

 

PASSWORD

The password for all REIMAGINE zoom events is: eden

Here are the group assignments:

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CONNECTION LEADER MEETINGS

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REIMAGINE SESSIONS

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PASSWORD

The password for all REIMAGINE zoom events is: eden

FRIDAY

1. Prepare your answer to the question “What can your group count on from you?”

This should be as specific to your coupledom as possible. It can be serious or fun, going deep or keeping it light. You’ll be spot-lighted and asked to answer this question at the event, and your answer should feel authentic and take only a couple of seconds. Here are some examples:

“You can count on us to hold you when you are feeling sad, and make sure you have love to come back to…” (or)
“You can count on us to hold the consciousness of your relationship even when you are not able to.” (or)
“You can count on us to tickle your funny bone and remind you not to take yourselves so fricken seriously!”

You will be answering the question for the entire group during one of the REIMAGINE sessions, so this is a chance to get prepared.

CONNECTION GROUP PROMPTS

2. Each of us will use this weekend to reach a new personal best in one of the 12 principles. Which principle will you choose to focus on creating a new personal best? Share how you decided?

Similar to an intention, everyone will choose one aspect of the Eden Ethos to embody for the weekend. Be prepared to talk about what any of the principles might mean to you. The 12 principles are listed in another tab on this page.

3. Please let us know if there are any sessions you know you cannot attend.

SATURDAY MORNING – (BRYAN & JENNIFER)

We kick off with a session called Patterns & Presence with Bryan and Jennifer.

Here are the polls for the beginning of the session (each poll will be offered twice, once for each partner)

#1 and #1b: When’s the last time you did something you promised yourself you weren’t going to do?
a) Five minutes ago
b) Today
c) This Week
d) This Month
e) I was a small child…in a past life

#2 and #2b: What is your relationship to “unconscious patterns”
a) I don’t have patterns. Patterns are for other people.
b) I recognize a pattern in how my partner responds to me.
c) I know what my patterns are and I’m “working” on them.
d) I can *feel* the difference between patterned behavior and presence in the moment.
e) I have effective practices for returning to presence in real-time, regardless of circumstances.

#3 and #3b: The tactics I tend to use when I’m most triggered are…
a) Avoiding the situation and getting confused
b) Collapsing and regressing
c) Being passive-aggressive and not responding
d) Controlling and escalating
e) Using sharp piercing words or criticism

Then Jennifer and Bryan will teach a brief model that talks about the 5 most common ways we handle being triggered. They are:

• The Leaving Pattern
• The Merging Pattern
• The Enduring Pattern
• The Aggressive Pattern
• The Rigid Pattern

Once each is explained, people will identify which pattern is primary for themselves and their partners. They will then be asked to rename their zoom name to the pattern of the partner with the longest hair. We will break up the groups into 5 break-out groups, one for each pattern. Each break-out group will read a meditation designed specifically for that pattern. If you have signed up to lead one of these meditations, connect with Bryan and Jennifer directly to get the exact wording.

We will then get into the main group and call on a few people to share their experiences. Jennifer will then point out some of the ways patterns are visible, even during regular speech when there is no trigger present. While this is happening, people will rename themselves to the name of the pattern of the partner with the shortest hair. We will repeat the same 5 breakouts with the same 5 meditations.

We need 3 volunteer couples to lead these breakouts. It involves reading from a script, but also really emanating the qualities of that particular pattern.

Then we will rejoin the main group, and Bryan and Jennifer will talk about the “gifts” that each pattern tends to offer.

Finally, a we will break out into Connection Groups with the following prompt:

CONNECTION GROUP PROMPT

What are you noticing right now about either your pattern or your partner’s? What’s the main message you want your partner to know, in light of this? 

SATURDAY AFTERNOON – (ANNIE & EBEN)

Here’s a video from Eben to all of you: watch now

They’ll work with one volunteer couple to demo the Soothing Mantra creation, then each couple will get 20 minutes to create theirs. After that, we’ll break out into Connection Groups.

CONNECTION GROUP PROMPT #1

What did you learn from watching the demo and doing the exercise with your partner?

CONNECTION GROUP PROMPT #2

As you listen to other couples share, what do you notice about the similarities and differences to your experience?

SUNDAY MORNING – (RONO & SIERRA)

During the last 15-20 minutes of this session, Rono and Sierra will present the Sanctuary membership offer. You may be called upon to answer questions. Keep these three things in mind:

1) There are three membership levels.

Steward $22/month or $222 per year. You get:
Monthly Love Lounge and Sanctuary Salon calls,
Participation in a Couples Council,
Access to Eden’s Private on-line social network,
Access to the entire library of resources including all past masterclasses, call recordings, and event recordings,
Access to virtual and select in-person couples retreats (additional fees apply)

Ambassador $111/month or $1111 per year. You get:
All Steward level benefits, plus:
Free tickets to all Eden Virtual Events
Monthly Kings & Queens & Infinite Beings Councils
Monthly Heart Seat / Group Coaching Calls
Access to select in-person experiences (exclusive offers apply)

Visionary $3333 / year. You get:
All Ambassador level benefits, plus
Access to virtual and select in-person experiences (exclusive visionary level offers apply)
Preferential / Early access to event tickets
Preferential / Early access to luxury accommodations (when available)
Private “Visionary” Couples Retreats at a Destination Location (additional fees apply)
Access to a “Visionary Members Only Day” during select gatherings
Exclusive collaboration opportunities with other leading-edge couples

2) The FAQs (on another tab on this page)

3) How not to sell (on. another tab on this page)

CONNECTION GROUP PROMPTS

There will be 1-3 prompts, depending on time availability and Rono & Sierra’s read on the room.

1. What is something you heard or witnessed so far that you want to integrate into how you experience yourself or your partner?

2. Was any part of this weekend uncomfortable for you? Are you open to share about that?

3. We asked you to take on creating a personal best in one of the 12 principles. What is something you did to live into that principle that you might not have done otherwise? (Pause) If you can’t think of something, there’s still time! Take a big swing today and do something radical in service to the principle you chose.

SUNDAY AFTERNOON – (GALIT & DEREK)

Galit & Derek will be taking participants into a 10 minute guided meditation in which they will ask them to visualize these questions:

• What must you let go of to be available to an unimaginable life?
• What must you step into to be available to this?
• What action must you take to open yourself up to this unimaginable life?
• What new structures or habits do you need to put into place to support you living this way of life fully?

Once they come back from the meditation, you will go into groups and be asked to share:

CONNECTION GROUP PROMPTS

What came through during the meditation and how are you going to integrate and take this into your life moving forward?

FRIDAY INTEGRATION CALL (RONO, SIERRA, BRYAN, AND JENNIFER)

The final call for REIMAGINE focuses on connection and sharing. There is a wonderful opening transmission from Dio & Erin, followed by a message from Rono & Sierra, and then some sharing in the main room. Bryan & Jennifer will then introduce the prompts and send us into a 45-minute break-out. (The longest of the event). We’ll then come back into the main room

CONNECTION GROUP PROMPTS

What has come up for you around the principle you chose? Has anything more come up during the week?

If you were going to boil down your integration from this experience to one promise for the future, what would it be? (e.g., From now on, I will be more/less ________)

Knowing you don’t have to do it all on your own, what kind of support could you have in the next few months to keep that promise and for your relationship in general?

Who’s right for this membership?

Our membership is perfect for thriving, committed, mission-driven couples who have been together for a minimum of one year and are looking to expand their network, gain insights and tools and support from peers while enjoying a safe, sacred and confidential place that holds and empowers your relationship.

Is the membership for couples only?

Yes.

We are already experts, leaders and teachers in the relationship space

Eden was built for leaders like you- who spend a lot of their life “holding and supporting others.” Eden is a place where you get to be held by other awesome couples and peers who have wisdom to share.

And, specifically for relationship coaches and experts, Eden is a place where your gifts get to shine.

Not only will your relationship be supported in new ways, but as an expert and a member at Ambassador level or above, you will get to showcase your gifts to the membership by having access to teaching and offering your tools and expertise in Eden.

But don’t take our word for it, here is what Jonatha Hudson, a relationship and sex expert has to say about how Eden has helped him and his wife…

“We don’t need Eden for our relationship. We don’t need Eden for communication We don’t need Eden for our sex life. We’ve got all that. AND….we have still learned some fun stuff. We desire Eden for the community. For friends. REAL friends. The ones that we would do anything for. And to spread couples love – which I think is one of the most powerful energies we can spread on this planet. We desire Eden for the puzzle pieces of an amazing life experience. We are but one corner of the puzzle. So many areas we don’t know and want to. There are so many couples here that have such wisdom and knowledge. And we are puzzle pieces for each other. We desire Eden to grow our relationship. To be held. To be wanted. To be challenged. To be called out. And to be called up. In love. We got stale in our thinking we had it all figured out. Stale and very lonely at the top. Coming back down the mountain into the arms of this beautiful community has brought tears to my eyes more than once.”

I’m not sure what support I need, how would I know if this is right for me?

Eden is right for those who are desiring more community and more places to explore, soften and expand your edges around love, partnership and relationship. You may not know what support you need, but being human and being 100% committed to another human being can bring up challenges that Eden World offers collective wisdom and tools to help you navigate.

Simply by engaging in conversations and experiences with other evolutionary couples, it becomes clear that there are growth edges and it will become clear what wants to be supported and held once you begin to see what others are going through and talking about.

We are in a non-monogamous relationship, is this membership right for us?

Eden World is for committed couples but couples in our community have many ranges to their level of agreements from monogamous to poly and everything in between. However, you must be in a committed partnership of one year or more to join Eden Sanctuary (at Ambassador level or above), and while you and your committed partner are in Eden experiences, the invitation us to focus on expanding the relationship with the beloved (or beloveds) you are in that committed partnership with. (Meaning… we are not “playing with others” in Eden, as there are plenty of places to do that in the world. We welcome you with open arms, but won’t be throwing you a play party.)

I’m not really into “memberships.” I’ve never been a “group” person. I’m a leader, not a joiner.

We invite and challenge you to have a double or triple zoom date with any Eden World couple and let us know how you feel after that. If you feel held, supported, inspired and engaged in any way, then Eden Sanctuary might be right for you.

Also- Eden is a community filled with leaders and introverts. We do our best to cater to every need as best as we can, and allow for couples to find a level of interaction and connection that works for them.

We have kids, is this community kid friendly?

While Eden World is an adult focused community, we are definitely supportive of parents with kids and have a whole community of parents who have created a mini-community within Eden to serve the needs of couples with children and the children themselves.

We are in a same sex relationship, is this membership right for us?

Eden is for any type of committed partnership and we welcome same sex couples with open arms. While our membership is still primarily heteronormative, we have been eagerly awiting an opportunity to serve same sex couples and have many things in place to support you, while also being fully open to ideas and feedback that your experience in our community may bring to our attention.

Our relationship is in trouble and needs support, is this the right place for us?

Unfortunately, we are not here to save marriages or relationships. That’s what therapy and coaching is for. While we provide many tools and support for troubled times, our membership is geared for thriving partnerships and we are not in a position nor have the resources to support troubled relationships. But we can recommend many resources from our community to support you to get yourself and your relationship to a more peaceful place.

Will this work if I’m outside of North America?

Yes! All of our membership offerings are virtual and all calls are recorded and made available to the membership for viewing at your convenience.

What happens after I join?

Once you become a Sanctuary member, you will be contacted by our Eden World Concierge to welcome you as well as have an opportunity to go through a comprehensive “Sanctuary Orientation” process.

You will also receive a welcome email that will:

  • Invite you into our private membership forum
  • Give you calendar link to add your monthly calls to your personal calendar
  • You will be add to our email and texting system so you receive call reminders
  • You will be invited to have double dates with other couples who are not in councils to find a great fit for you and your beloved

    • I’m busy, how much time will the Membership take? How much time do I need to commit?

    Most of our members own businesses, have families and other big time commitments. While we offer a wide range of calls and community gatherings, you can attend as much or as little of these offerings as you’d like.. There is no set time commitment other than you Couples Councils, who usually meet one or twice a month at a minimum.

    That being said, the more time you are able to put in, the more your relationship will thrive and the more connections to the other community members themselves will grow and prosper- which is what Eden World is all about.

    What’s included? What’s not included?

    The levels of the Sanctuary membership give you access to different offerings. Every level of membership gets the Love Lounge, Sanctuary Salon, Council of Parents calls, Couples Councils and access to our online forum and a profile on our portal.

    Ambassadors and Visionaries additionally get monthly Council of Kings, Council of Queens, Council of Infinite Beings, Heart Seat Wisdom calls, support in matchmaking for their Couples Councils, complimentary tickets to our virtual events and access to our live events with a paid ticket, and they also get first priority access to all Eden World events.

    What if I’m only interested in some of the offerings and not others?

    That is 100% ok! You can join whatever you feel most resonant towards. As we mentioned above, the most value and most important piece of connecting with other Edenites is the Couples Council.

    Can I see a calendar or schedule of offerings to see if I can participate?

    We’ve made it easy for you by hosting all Sanctuary main offerings on Tuesday nights at the same time each week.

    Who are the experts you feature? What are their qualifications?

    Our membership and greater community consists of many prolific experts from all walks of life and all over the country (and world). Most of these express have decades of experience teaching communities and have written books and offer seminars, workshops and more.

    We also have an intake process for members of our community and beyond to submit their desired topics they want to bring which lets us know their qualifications and inculturates them to our mission and ethos.

    A few of our past Salon calls featured Sex and Intimacy experts Destin Gerek and Elie Prana, a guided exploration of your Erotic Blueprint with Kismet Marlane, and Tune In and Turn On: Breaking Down the Genetic Barriers to Sex and Intimacy with Simone Ressner and Larry Michel all who have been working in their respective fields for over a decade or more.

    What kind of relationship support is available in the membership? Does it cost extra?

    Our Eden principles include having “All Needs Met” and “Seeing it All the Way Through” which helps to make sure that any challenges that arise can be met and held by the container of Eden World.

    For the occasional challenge or issues within your relationship, you have the support of your Eden Concierge, your Couples Council, other Sanctuary members, the Forum and your Eden Leadership team.

    If you are having ongoing issues in your relationship and want to get support before it becomes critical, we have verified therapists, counselors and relationship coaches who volunteer their time to meet with you and your beloved and offer you additional support packages should you need it.

    Every member can have one free exploratory session with each Verified Expert. And yes, if you need this kind of extra support beyond an initial support session, there will be an extra investment needed and you will work that out directly with the support practitioner.

    Are there people in my area who are part of the membership?

    It depends on where you live but yes, we have couples from all over the country. Many are able to join councils with couples who live nearby and able to meet in person as well.

    Do you offer live events and retreats? When are they happening? Where do they happen?

    While we do offer live events and retreats, at this time of global pandemic concern and social distancing regulations, we are unable to hold them in person. However, they are planned out and ready to go the minute we can set a new date and secure a venue! Typically these in person gatherings and retreats happen in California.

    PAYMENTS / REFUNDS / GUARANTEES

    What if I want to join but my partner isn’t interested?

    While we would love to be able to support everyone, we have found it is very difficult to participate as a solo part of a couple. Much of our work and gatherings are focused on your connection and relationship to your beloved and to other couples in the community.

    If they are unsure, we can arrange a double date with someone in our community or on the Eden World Leadership team to explore with you both if there is a way we can support you to get on the same page with your desire to be a part of this community.

    Ultimately, if they decide Eden is not for them at this time, we won’t be able to accept only one person of the coupledom.

    How much does it cost?

    Our Steward level is $222 per year, our Ambassador level is $1111 per year and Visionary level is $3333 per year. You can also choose a subscription / payment plan for Steward and Ambassador levels.

    Do you offer a guarantee?

    Please visit our website at https://edenisrising.com/sanctuary-cancellation-refund-privacy-policy/ for our full refund and cancellation policy.

    Can I get a refund if I find The Membership is not a fit for me? How long is your refund period?

    Check it out for 30 days and if you find it’s not right for you, you can cancel your membership. If after the 30 days, you decided to stay, we require a one year commitment to your membership.

    Is there a discount if I pay for the year vs monthly?

    There is a discount of $42 to pay in full for a year for Stewards, $221 discount for Ambassadors when you pay in full for a year. Visionaries is by application only and requires that you pay in full for your membership dues.

    Does my payment cover me and my partner or do we need to pay separately?

    All membership and ticket prices we offer are per couple.

PASSWORD

The password for all REIMAGINE zoom events is: eden

AGENDA

 

  • This is your home base.
  • Flow
  • Container
  • Schedule (before and after)
  • Escalation
  • Devices and technology
  • Session Prompts
  • To sell or not to sell? Handling the Sanctuary membership offer…

 

FLOW

 

REIMAGINE follows a familiar flow: Reimagine Self (Fri and Sat am), Reimagine Relationship (Sat and Sun am), Reimagine Our World. (Sun pm). Think about the topics of conversation, prompts, and interactions in those contexts to help make the interactions as juicy as possible.

 

CONTAINER

 

The “container” is the set of agreements, both explicit and implicit, that allow participants to feel safe to share vulnerably (or not). You are the participants’ most important contact with “the container”. Here’s how to keep the container strong:

 

1) Tell people that we are going to get deep and personal fast. “Warn” the parts of them that think they need a lot of warm-up that because we are connecting virtually, we are skipping right to the good stuff. Let them know that it is ok to feel uncomfortable and that the feeling of being uncomfortable with sharing something personal comes from the sad fact that we don’t have enough environments in our lives where we can share openly and trust that we’ll be held. Even though they may not have a reason to trust yet, promise them that you will hold what they share tenderly. You’ve got their backs.

 

2) Keep it confidential. Ask for confidentiality and lead by example. Don’t tell stories about other couples, even if you have permission to tell the story, as it could be interpreted as a breach in confidentiality. As much as possible, don’t refer to things people in your group said in other sessions, because even that can be interpreted as a likelihood to speak about it in the absence of the group. 

 

3) Keep your promises. Be early. If you say “we’ll get back to that,” make sure to get back to it. If you say you have a book recommendation, follow up immediately.

 

4) Stay regulated. Breath and be present. The time, the technology, the distractions, and the pressure of ‘being a good connection leader’ are all subordinate to your main job, which is to stay present with the humans on the screen. If you notice you start getting antsy and your nervous system becomes elevated, tap your partner or give them a signal that you need help re-centering. This is doubly true if others in your group become elevated, especially if it is the content that has them triggered.

 

5) Interrupt. Take care of the field. Calmly interrupt anything that feels out of sync with the purpose of the connection group and ask for what you’d like to see instead. For example, you can say “I understand the impulse to take the conversation there, but I’d like for us to all take one breath together. Ok yes, now I’d like to hear James’ answer to the question.”

 

6) Be impacted. Allow yourself to be emotionally impacted by what the members of the connection group are sharing. That signals that it is safe to feel and safe to be impacted by each other.

 

7) Ask For Consent. We are not here to give coaching or advice. This includes reflections and suggestions. If you want to do or say anything other than 1) model vulnerability by sharing your own experience, or 2) following your curiosity to learn more about another person’s experience, ask for consent first. Be aware that social pressure invalidates most requests for consent, and ask in such a way that makes it absolutely clear that “cool kids” say no sometimes too.

 

SCHEDULE

 

We will meet to go over the specific Connection Leader prompts 30 minutes before each session. The specifics are listed in the “SCHEDULE” tab on this page.

 

After every session, make sure you Connection Group knows they can stay on the line and wrap up in case you ran out of time. Stick around in the group until no one wants to. After about 30 minutes, if you need to go and others still want to connect, you can invite them to stay on while you politely drop off.

 

ESCALATION

 

If there is conflict in your group that doesn’t resolve itself in the regular session. Text the Connection Leader group thread that you want help. Even if you think you have it handled, let us know what the situation is and what you’re planning on doing about it.

 

If there is a sign of any serious distress, abuse, mental illness, inconsolability, mention (even casually) of suicide, text the Connection Leader thread immediately (even during the session) and let us know the situation. We are not mental health professionals and it is unsafe for us to take matters into our own hands that deserve the attention of professionals.

 

DEVICES AND TECHNOLOGY

 

To properly handle a connection group, you’ll need to have one laptop or desktop with the zoom.us app installed for connecting to the meetings. Shut down all other applications on this device.

 

In addition, you’ll need to have a second device (ideally a tablet or a laptop) with this page open at all times for reference. Set up your Connection Leader communication (texting, etc.) on that second device so the zoom screen is uncluttered with alerts, etc. Both partners should share the same zoom screen when possible. If you live with other event participants, every connection leader couple will need their own zoom connection (even if you are in the same room with others).

 

It is recommended but not necessary to have 3 devices. 1 for zoom, 2 for prompts (this page), and a mobile phone for texting and communication. Don’t try to run your main zoom connection from a phone.

 

Download a branded zoom virtual background now: 3 to choose from! pick the one you like from the “Important Links” tab on this page.

 

Whatsapp group and Sanctuary Online invites provided now.

 

SESSION PROMPTS

 

The session prompts are in the “PROMPTS” tab on this page

 

TO SELL OR NOT TO SELL

 

Be helpful but not pushy. Give support but not advice.

 

Please do track where each person in your group is in relationship to a decision to join the Sanctuary. Please do not say “you should do it.” It isn’t your job to make them want to do it. It could be your job to be so amazing and welcoming that anyone would want to.

 

 

 

WHAT’S NEXT?

Click the button below to let us know you’re interested and someone will be in touch soon to talk it over with you and see if it is the right fit. Thank you for expressing your care for our Sanctuary. 

WHO ARE THE CONNECTION LEADERS?

They are the Eden World leadership team, long-time Eden Sanctuary members, and also couples just like you that may be newer to the Eden Sanctuary. They care about high quality human interactions. They care about getting to the heart of the matter. They care about giving people the freedom to explore what’s most true. You can see a badge that looks like this on their Sanctuary profiles. Apply now and earn your badge today:

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